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Posted by Anonymous (not verified) on March 1, 2008, 7:10 am
Hi LifeInParadise,
I was quite shocked to receive such a heartfelt response to my comment and everything you said is absolutely right, most of your reply was so close to my own feelings that I sat reading it open mouthed. It helps just to know we're not nuts, just human, and that others feel the same way. I'm sat opposite my guy as I write this, we have an office at home and he's sitting at his desk. I feel guilty that he doesn't even know I've resorted to the internet as a way of finding some sort of answer to this, and he'd be heart-broken if he knew. He's even told me to try looking at other guys to see if it bothers him, the way it bothers me, but what's the point of that? Mind games are the last thing I want - I need a relaxed, easygoing relationship. He once told me that I made him feel I was on "his side" in life, so I've told him that's all I want in return. Yet whilst he always tells me I'm his world, he doesn't understand that his actions speak louder to me.
I really hope your talk went OK last night - maybe the thought of losing you will make him realise that these other, trivial people, are just not worth ending a marriage over. I admire you for your strength and for being true to yourself. No-one would wish this for themselves, and the following months may be tough....but it sounds to me as if the whole experience will be a relief to you. Feel free to keep in touch if you feel the need. It's good having someone to talk to about it without feeling completely crazy.
Hi LifeInParadise,
I was quite shocked to receive such a heartfelt response to my comment and everything you said is absolutely right, most of your reply was so close to my own feelings that I sat reading it open mouthed. It helps just to know we're not nuts, just human, and that others feel the same way. I'm sat opposite my guy as I write this, we have an office at home and he's sitting at his desk. I feel guilty that he doesn't even know I've resorted to the internet as a way of finding some sort of answer to this, and he'd be heart-broken if he knew. He's even told me to try looking at other guys to see if it bothers him, the way it bothers me, but what's the point of that? Mind games are the last thing I want - I need a relaxed, easygoing relationship. He once told me that I made him feel I was on "his side" in life, so I've told him that's all I want in return. Yet whilst he always tells me I'm his world, he doesn't understand that his actions speak louder to me.
I really hope your talk went OK last night - maybe the thought of losing you will make him realise that these other, trivial people, are just not worth ending a marriage over. I admire you for your strength and for being true to yourself. No-one would wish this for themselves, and the following months may be tough....but it sounds to me as if the whole experience will be a relief to you. Feel free to keep in touch if you feel the need. It's good having someone to talk to about it without feeling completely crazy.